In the same way, deacons must be well respected and have integrity. They must not be heavy drinkers or dishonest with money.  They must be committed to the mystery of the faith now revealed and must live with a clear conscience.  Before they are appointed as deacons, let them be closely examined. If they pass the test, then let them serve as deacons.  In the same way, their wives must be respected and must not slander others. They must exercise self-control and be faithful in everything they do.  A deacon must be faithful to his wife, and he must manage his children and household well.  Those who do well as deacons will be rewarded with respect from others and will have increased confidence in their faith in Christ Jesus."  1 Timothy 3:8-13 (NLT)